CHEATING. What a touchy subject. This is a subject of controversy for all black men and women since who knows when. Its done through telephones and computers and everyone knows about an office affair or two at their place of work. But its not limited to that any longer. We even have cyber affairs these days. Some consider that cheating, others don’t. Seems as though it depends on individual perceptions of what is cheating. It is estimated that one in three men will cheat at some point in their relationship. It has also been said that all men are dogs. I don’t know how true that is but what I do know is that there are big dogs and there are little dogs. The ladies just need to find a Chihuahua instead of a Great Dane in my opinion. Who knows why men cheat or why women do the same but either way it happens and happens a lot.
Statistically speaking, men cheat for a single primary reason: sex.
But this is a double edged sword. Women cheat as well. The two blurbs that follow are excerpts from “Women’s Infidelity”.
If you’re a male, like most other males, you would probably never suspect that your partner is cheating, not only because of your wife’s or girlfriend’s seeming disinterest in sex; but also because you have the belief that your wife or girlfriend is a “good girl.” Unfortunately, males are frequently left/divorced by their wives and girlfriends without ever knowing about their wives’ and girlfriends’ infidelities.
If you’re a female, like most other females, prior to cheating on your partner you always proclaimed yourself to be “not the type” who would ever cheat. However, also like most other females, after they have cheated, you’re shocked and appalled by your behavior; but at the same time you can’t stop cheating.
Statistically, women don’t cheat for the sake of sex. It’s of secondary concern for them. The #1 reason why they cheat is for an emotional connection. This is particularly true of women over the age of 30.
I could get on my soap box and preach until blue in the face but only the individual can truly answer the question. Like I said, who knows why we cheat but either way it is a topic that needs to be discussed. What is known and is a fact is that Black families are disintegrating at an alarming rate and our rate of marriage is far below our caucasian counterparts. Many of us come from or at least know a “Single Mom”. This is a tough job but nonetheless its done and done well by a lot of mothers. But our kids need us “Black” men too. We need to talk about this amongst ourselves. Have dialogue with our wives and girlfriends and fix it before its too late. Oh and ladies, the 80/20 rule works both ways. Please be sure to pass this one and chime in on the discussion. We need our ladies to know what we feel and vice versa.